PHASES IN LIFE

There are distinct phases in our life’s journey where each phase presents its own challenges and opportunities. For men, careful balance of responsibilities, dreams, desires and relationships are some of the things that are demanded by these phases. The most important and effective way to live fully and enjoy each phase of life is to understand the setting of priorities which suits the most according to the particular phase you are going through. In this article we will try to explore about one of those phases. 

The phase

     

I am in a phase where i have to shift from playing drums to playing with my baby, from reading books to understanding my baby’s behaviour and his moves, from watching web series to watching my baby learning new things, from enjoying with friends to talking with my wife in night about the whole day and many more things. This is a phase of my life where i have to change my priorities which are essential for my child’s mental and physical development. There may become a large difference between what i will learn and what i could have learnt due to the nurturing period of the child. But this difference is nothing if you compare it to the baby’s happiness and overall development. If you do not fully concentrate on your baby, then there are chances that he will grow in a different manner, which will not be liked by you in the upcoming time. And, then you will either blame yourself or your baby for his behaviour. It is so because a baby acquires every small thing that he sees around him, weather it is your care towards him, your talking sense, your eating sense and every other small thing that we might perform in a wrong way in front of our baby. 

The Return

    

It is just a matter of time and he will grow bigger and become smart enough to let you do your things once again and allow you to choose the same path that you left after your baby was born. Just like you might think that your dreams and desires are very important for you, you need to think that your baby is even more important than all of these things. Because he is a living being who also has a future, lifestyle and many more things that you are going to provide. And, that totally depends on the way how you take care of him.

The learning 

     

This phase is an example for telling that changing priorities and understanding the situation, by not blaming each other and life, should be the approach. People are struggling with their doubts. They think that a temporary halt in their lives, due to some reasons, should not be there and they must not stop doing what they were doing at any cost. But what we need to perceive here is that there may be situations in your life which demands more of your attention than the thing that you have been doing very consistently for so long. This also allow to live in the present instead of thinking much about your goals and destinations which are very far and not as important as the current situation of your life. Situations can be about any thing. It may be about your loved ones who need you the most at the moment, may be your work is more important than gym, may be sleeping is more important than anything else at the present moment and may be staying at home is more important than going to work. Whatever we do, we do that for our family, our living, our interests or any other fulfilment, but if the situation comes which is more important than any of these things then you should definitely prioritise the most important aspect.

The good news

     

Apart from the fact that tough times never last, one more fascinating truth is  there. This is that you still have some time to focus on your goals and desires other than the main responsibility of the time. It just demands a good time management and a strong will power which encourages you to widen your comfort zone and do all the activities in the same 24 hours. Yes, it is also true that you will not be able to perform these activities for as much time as you used to. But you can definitely keep your consistency. For instance, your gym timings may b reduced after you have a baby. The amount of time will remain same, all tasks are to be completed in the same duration, so obviously the pace will increase, but it does not mean that the effectiveness should decrease. Effectiveness should be same whether you do it less or more. 

Try to value to present situation in your life.